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 ESSENTIAL!! Nov 01, 2009
Whether you choose the book or the AudioCD, this work is essential for anyone interested in living more authentically. If taken to heart this work will help create conscious choices for interpersonal relationships, dealing with unresolved issues from the past, raising children, and creating the inner dynamics for satisfying relationships and a more fulfilling life. I listened to the AudioCD on my iPod. It's easy to listen to a little bit everyday. Get it. Listen. and Live.
 A faulty view of God weakens this work Oct 29, 2009
I picked up the book Boundaries to help address needs in the life of a friend; I had heard the book promoted by a prominent Christian talk show host. While there are a few good points in the book, the good is grossly outweighed by the bad. The underlying reasoning of the authors is flawed by a faulty view of God: "[I]f [God] invades our boundaries, we will die." On the contrary, if God does not invade our boundaries, we will die; if he does not indwell us, we are spiritually dead. The authors speak inconsistently about God, indicating a lack of commitment to Him as reveals Himself in scripture. On the one hand they acknowledge that "God [is] a redeemer: he finds, saves, and heals his loved ones who are lost and in bondage." On the other hand they assert that "[God] does not rescue us; he wants us to work it out for our own good. He will not violate our wish to be left alone . . .. He allows us to say no and go our way." Now, I ask you whether this is logical? If God finds and saves those who are lost and in bondage, is that not a rescue? If he provides forgiveness of sins through the sacrifice of His Son Jesus, is that not a rescue? Scriptures tell us that we have all, like wandering sheep, gone our own way; it is only because God, like a good shepherd, seeks us that any of us are rescued and come to him.
Since the authors have a faulty view of God, they also have a faulty view of His Word. Actions and attitudes that God calls sin, the authors would call "boundary violations." Each individual is given latitude by the authors to define one's own boundaries; thus, one can define one's boundaries to include, not exclude, something that God calls sin. Since God is not recognized as having a right to invade our boundaries and establish the rules for our lives, one can, under their rules, define right and wrong for one's self. Doesn't that seem reminiscent of what a certain serpent promised the first woman in the garden of paradise?
For a solid book on saying no to peer pressure, codependency and fear, look to Edward T. Welch's [[ASIN:0875526004 When People Are Big and God Is Small: Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man (Resources for Changing Lives)].
This is a must read! Oct 18, 2009
I was required to read this book for my ethics class, but it is a must read for every Adult around the world. This book will help you re-structure your thinking so that you can set the boundries you need in your life. Every College student should be required to read this book.
Really good stuff, beginning to end Oct 17, 2009
If you are three, you hope your parents are reading the book
If you are twenty-three, you hope you are going where you want to go?
If you are forty-three, read this for yourself, give it to others
If you are sixty-three, I hope you enjoy seeing yourself in the lessons
Stories abound, all with a Christian focus and interleaved with optional supportive scripture. We did a group study on the book; that gave each of us a broader perspective of the ideas presented. A central theme - protect your heart. My favorite lesson: 'the stupidest thing you can do is not forgive'. Favorite new word: Boundarylessness.
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Oct 12, 2009
The best book on boundaries ever written! I use it all the time with my clients. It will change your life!
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