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 This book has helped me change my life Oct 09, 2009
One of the most helpful, well written "self help" books on the market. I would highly recommend it and easily give it a 5 star rating.
excellent book - changed my life Sep 27, 2009
A lot of people say "this changed my life" and throw that out there for just about everything, but I really feel this way about Codependent No More. I was in a crazy relationship, which seemed perfectly healthy from the inside, but started to have little problems here and there. A friend at work recommended it to me and it took only a couple of chapters, where the author tells the stories of people she has known, for me to see myself in those situations. Then I realized I really did have problems. Fortunately, the book tells how to fix them. :)
Because of this book, I have been able to set better boundaries in both personal and business relationships. It has really made a different. Not everything is perfect, so don't expect your situation to magically transform after reading this, but you will have a different insight as to what you are involved with and what you can do about it.
Beyond anything, I feel this book offers a lot of hope and that is certainly something we can all use more of.
 A good way to start your journey out of codependency Sep 12, 2009
The book definetely describes the codependency problem very well, specially on chapter four, where it lists all the sad things you've been doing to deal with oppressive or manipulative people, but you are too ashamed to admit you do them. It's like a crude view from the mirror that you wouldn't have except for if you went to a shrink. So, it's a good way to describe how bad the situation is for you and what you need to work to get out of it. However, as I'd say all psychological issues, there's no formula that will work for everybody. Each case is a unique case. And once you know what the problem is you still will take quite a long time to figure out how you will live a life that is truly your own. Whether is an authoritarian parent or some relative which makes you think he/she will die if you don't give him/her attention or an alchoholic spouse that is demanding 100% of your attention, will power, free time and energy, you will still have to figure out what to do with this weight on your life for which you also have some feelings and with all the rest of things and people on your life that are important but for years you couldn't pay attention to them.
So, I really recommend reading this book, specially the first 10 chapters, for you to finally feel that it might not be your fault what is happening on your life that is driving you crazy. I really recommend reading this book for you to start thinking differently and for you to see that there is a light in the end of the tunnel. But, it's important to state that fixing your life might really take several months or years and might require professional help so that there are no disappointments on the results of reading this book.
fast shipping, great condition Sep 02, 2009
Good transaction! The book was exactly as presented, shipped quickly and the transaction went smoothly! Great merchant.
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 Only Ok - Hoping for More Compassion to Others Aug 29, 2009
I have several friends who swear by this book, however, overall I feel it missed the mark with compassion toward others as the highest value missing somewhere. I think it has some good points, but is overly simplistic. I was looking for a book to help me deal with a video game addict. Labeling folks who get emotionally involved as "codependent" makes a feel-good psychobabel label, but is not totally intellectually honest with the complexity of some modern problems. Take the case of parents of video gamers- this book would label them as codependent, which is silly. No, they shouldn't just live their own life and forget about worrying about their family member. That is another problem altogether - lack of caring, which today's kids and teens don't need either. I was looking for a better way to be emotionally involved with others. It is a start with the bare basics of not enabling, but I felt it is again focused on the "me me me" folks, and the folks who want to label others. It is going in the right direction, but fails for me by going to fair down the laissez-faire road. Others may find it helpful.
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